Confidence and Insecurity in a D/s Relationship: My Perspective
Entering a true D/s relationship as a submissive male has been one of the most transformative experiences of my life. It’s an environment where vulnerability is encouraged, trust is paramount, and my growth feels constant. But with all that growth potential comes the reality of facing my insecurities. Being vulnerable and open can, at times, stir feelings of doubt and insecurity, especially in a society that often questions a man’s masculinity for embracing submission. Yet, over time, I’ve found that confidence and insecurity aren’t opposites; they’re two sides of the same coin. In fact, my confidence may have been strengthened by working through my insecurities. In the beginning, I struggled with insecurities around my submissive role. I worried about whether I was indeed “ too submissive,” if I could fulfill my Dominant’s expectations, and what it meant about me as a man. These questions were unnerving. I realized that if I wanted to embrace this role fully, I had to accept that...